Who pays for the brides engagement and wedding rings?
Our 35 year old son was married in February for the first time. He now has come to us 2 1/2 months after the wedding saying that we owe him money to pay for his new wife's engagement and wedding rings. We told him that we have never heard of the parents of the groom paying for the rings. We would like to find out if it is true that the parents are responsible for the rings.
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The groom typically pays for the engagement ring and the couple pays for the bands. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. Parents are not financially responsible for any of the wedding costs these days. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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May 8, 2007, 11:09 AM
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Thank you for your help. I just couldn't believe that we should have to buy her rings.
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May 8, 2007, 11:12 AM
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Thank you for your help. This has become such an issue and I was sure that we didn't have to buy the rings.
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I can't believe he would ask you to. He's proabably too old for a spanking but that's just what seems to come to my mind first. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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May 8, 2007, 12:22 PM
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Yes, he is to old for a spanking, but with all the trouble it has caused I wish I could give him one. Couples that are planning a wedding need to know that you have to communicate to parents before the wedding as to what they think you should be paying for. The rings are just one of many things that he thinks we should pay for now. All it does is cause hard feelings. I do thank you for your advice as this is weighing very heavy on me.
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I'm going to make your day...parents are no longer responsible for paying for any of the wedding. Those days are long gone. Couples are being married later, living together and not needing the support of their parents. So, it would make sense that the couple pay for the wedding. However, if a parent wants to offer to pay as a gift, for any or all of the wedding, that is very generous and should be celebrated by the couple. Parents aren't obligated to provide anything to their children after they are of age, especially a 35 year old.
Thankfully, many are appreciative of what they have and what they receive.
Relax and wait for the grandbabies! Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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May 8, 2007, 1:17 PM
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Thank you so much for saying what you did. It really helped me to feel better. Thanks again for everything.
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May 8, 2007, 8:25 PM
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Thank you so much for your help.
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May 9, 2007, 12:00 PM
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As a jeweler who sells engagement rings and wedding bands, I have to say that I believe it would be harmful to pay for your children's engagement ring.
An engagement ring is such a symbolic part of a new marriage. It's also such a personal thing. In fact, it's the one area, I believe, that should not be paid for because the engagement ring symbolizes the personal love, commitment, and responsibility between man and wife.
Time for the "kids" to grow up and be responsible. Doing otherwise will only teach him irresponsibility. Afshin from Apples of Gold Jewelry Professional Jeweler
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Thank you so much for saying that. This is what we are trying to tell him. I look at it as a circle of love between the two of them. When he came to us with this it blow me out of the water as I had never heard of such a thing. He said that he found it on the internet. Anyway thanks again for responding to my question.
Who pays for the brides engagement and wedding rings?
