My future mother inlaw has offered me her diamond that was bought for her as gift from my girlfriends father. It was not her engagement stone but had been purchased to be given to the man that asked for their daughters hand in marriage. My girlfriends father passed away years back before i had the chance to meet him, so this diamond will be extremely emotional news when I propose to her. I have no doubt in my mind that this will add a special touch to the ring which my girlfriend will love. We are a very close family already, so without insult I have offered to pay for the stone. Her mother will not accept money from me but I would like to do something for her. I do not feel comfortable just taking the stone as a gift. She is remarried, so I was thinking of sending her and her husband on a second honeymoon. Is this a good idea or do you have any other suggestions? Sorry so long but I do appreciate you time. Thanks
Ah, I can answer this one from a very personal point of view. I am a widowed mother of two children and have two rings from their dad I am holding for each of them. I would not expect to receive any tangible gift in return. Although your idea to want to repay your future in-laws is both admirable and very sweet, I think the best gift you could give is your obvious gratitude and respect of that gift. Perhaps a heartfelt letter acknowledging the ring's value and what it will certainly mean to her daughter/your bride. I know that my children's happiness, love and respect would be of the highest value to me and most parents.
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The gift you will give your future mother-in-law by respectfully accepting the ring and honoring your fiancee's father's wishes is bigger than anything you could ever buy or finance. You are extremely considerate for being concerned, but this is a moment in your life when graciousness is the most selfless quality you have to offer.
Take the ring, give it to her daughter, and pay her family back by being a really excellent and loving partner (and a wonderful son-in-law). Good luck! Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
future mother inlaw offers her diamond
