Hi - My fiancee and I have a minor issue about buying the wedding bands. My parents are paying for the whole wedding (his parents are no longer around), so my parents want us to pay for our own wedding bands. We have a joint account and I'm in school more than full time, while he is working as a waiter. He just moved to my state where we will live after the wedding. For this reason, he is on a very tight budget. When we went to price rings they were very expensive and I don't see how we are going to be able to afford to buy them. I understand where my parents are coming from and I would feel extremely guilty going to them and bringing this up. I've tried to find a job, but with my schedule there just aren't enough hours and I've run out of ideas on what else to do. Do you have any suggestion? Thanks
Your parents are being very generous by offering to host the entire wedding. Be thankful since they really aren't obligated to do so.
I'd suggest that you try to get an on campus job of some sort to try to build up your bank account now. many students go to school full time and have jobs. My son does this and he works on campus at the maximum amount of hours allowed. Perhaps your fiance could pick up more hours at his waiter job? Honestly, if you can't even afford the rings, how are you to afford being married? Start getting creative about ways to earn and save money. Stop relying on your parents. This is your first step towards becoming a responsible adult.
That being said, there are many places online where you can find discounted wedding ringsfor the both of you. Try those places or go to your local jeweler and ask about a payment plan. Choose wisely and try not to be too extravagant. I would never recommend starting out your married life in debt but the rings are an important part of the ceremony.
Good Luck. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I couldn't agree more and this is your time to show your maturity in the selection of rings that you can afford. Your marriage is more important than what's on your finger. Look at this with maturity and responsibility and you'll be happier. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
I completely agree. Your parents are being extremely generous and shouldn't be approached with this request.
I also agree about taking a very close look at your budget and finances. Once you are married, you two should be paying all of your own bills. That may be difficult if everything stay the same as it is now.
About the rings, it may not seem 'romantic' to wear someone else's ring. But, there are many who are trying to sell theirs. These are very inexpensive. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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