[breaster]

Is it appropriate to have a Pampered Chef Bridal shower? In other words, guests have the option of contributing to the bride's "wish list" of the items offered by Pampered Chef. A Pampered Chef representative puts on a show and cooks for the guests (in lieu of games). The guests even have the option of purchasing their own items. Think Tupperwear but more for chefs, not storage.

My sister is hosting this event (she is a bridesmaid, my bridal party is all family) and has written the following on invitations:

"...Pampered Chef Shower. There is no need to bring a gift, if you like you can contribute to the bride's wish list and help fill her cupboards with her favorite items! An apron will be available to sign in lieu of a card..."

Was this a breach in etiquette? I am worried that she/we may have upset people...

What do you think?

Thanks.

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Breaster,

Usually this would not be appropriate because it could be embarrassing for the guests. They are put in the position of having to purchase something in front of others, even if this is done 'in private'. They may feel as if they have to purchase something outside their budget to appear generous.

However, if the gift is optional and the party is more of a party, gifts are not the focus, this could appear proper. Just down play the purchasing element.

Best wishes,