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How to word party invitation that says guests pay


#1 User is offline   adriann39 

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I found some helpful advice but am still confused on what to do!
My husband and I were married at the JP in April (2 months ago) with a small group of family present. Although we would love to have a huge party and pay for it all we just don't have the funds. We would like to have a get-together/celebration for those friends and family who did not attend the small ceremony. I have no clue how to word the invitation so our friends/family understand that we won't be paying, (without sounding tacky).

Can I even do an invitation (e-vite) or is that not appropriate?

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you

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Congratulation on the marriage.

When you send an invitation, you're inviting guests to a party. When you invite, you pay. If you expect people top pay fopr themselves then you're not inviting them to anything - except maybe inviting them to spend their money. Imagine having this party in your home and handing your guests a bill. That's how it would feel if they were invited to a party for which they were expected to pay.

If you want to have a party to celebrate the marriage, host something small you can afford, maybe cake and coffee or sandwiches.Perhaps invite just very close family and make it a pot luck. I'm not a huge fan of those because, again, you're asking your guests to a party and asking them to bring the party, but with close family that can sometimes work. It depends on the family. Pot luck would be my very last option.
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I am not sure what you are envisioning for this gathering but inviting guests to an event and asking them to pay is tacky. Host something you can afford, otherwise don't do it. Sorry but I just can't offer any suggestions for wording such an invitation.
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