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My stepdaughter is being married at 3:00 p.m. She will wear a full length dress, the bridesmaids and maids of honor will wear full length light blue dresses. The men in the wedding party will wear tuxedos.

The bride's mother has chosen a two-piece, royal blue, full length outfit. The skirt is plain; the top is sequined and beaded. I had planned to buy a mid/calf-length dressy dress with no beads or sequins. Should I also get a shade of blue? Because of the bride's mother's selection, should I get a full length dress also?

The mother of the groom and I aren't sure what to do here. I thought that even with a formal wedding in the afternoon the mothers wore mid-length dresses.

The mother of the groom is leaning toward either a champage or green shade. Help! Thank you.

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Dear Stepmother,

Typically the stepmother tries to fade into the background and wears the same clothing as the guests. If you are considered 'one of the mothers' you and the groom's mother would coordinate your outfit with the mother of the bride.

It sounds as if she has coordinated with the bridesmaids in color, length, and formality. This is correct. You and the groom's mother would do the same. No one is to outshine the mother of the bride though.

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Yes - the last thing I want to do is appear in any way to be more prominent than the bride's mother. I am being included in the wedding though, as "one of the mothers" and expect that I will be the first of the actual wedding party to be escorted down the aisle. That's what happened with my stepson's wedding last year.

The mother of the groom and I are trying to coordinate our dresses with the bride's mother. I believe that I should be the least ... um ... noticeable of the three of us and should wear something simple and non-sparkly and mid-length. Does that sound right?

Thanks for your help.

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Because you will be viewed as 'one of the mothers' you could wear a long gown also. If you feel more comfortable in a slightly shorter length that is fine. But, typically you would wear the same length as the mother of the bride.

I believe you would be the first mother escorted down the aisle also.

Thank you for being the considerate and courteous person you are.

All of this sounds perfect. Enjoy!
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Thank you very much for your help! I truly appreciate it and it all makes good sense.

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