Maid Of Honor Vs Bridesmaids

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Difference between a Maid of Honor and a Bridesmaid?

Could someone please tell me what the difference is between a Maid of Honor and a Bridesmaid? I am getting married in May of 2006. I have a 2 female friends that I would consider having in my wedding as bridesmaids. I was going to have my fiance’s sister as the maid of honor, but I am not close to her at all. Instead, I would just have her as a bridesmaid.

My wedding is going to be small (80 people).

What exactly makes the Maid of Honor “better” than a Bridesmaid? My fiance and I are going to take care of ALL of the wedding arrangements. We are paying for everything. We have been together for 8 years so I don’t need a Wedding shower (we have lived together for 7.5 years). All I really need is someone to fluff up my dress and hold my bouquet during our wedding ceremony. Could someone please tell me what the Maid of Honor really signifies? Thank you….

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Expert Answer: Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca

Dear Killerbee,

A Maid of Honor is more of a personal attendant. She can help you pick out your dress, helps you dress on the day of the wedding, holds your bouquet, and if you wanted a shower she often hosts it. This is an option though. She is ‘there’ for you more than the other bridesmaids and she also organizes them. She will tell them what you want.

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Often the bridesmaids will help with the little chores of a wedding, such as taste testing for the caterer and stuffing envelopes. The MOH would help with scheduling the ladies for these tasks. It is helpful to have one in control of the others. It takes the stress of you having to do everything.

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Expert Answer: Bride Next Door

Basically, a maid of honour is the chief bridesmaid and a matron of honor is a married maid of honor. It’s usually the brides best friend or sister.  The maid or matron of honor has to take the lead when it comes to organizing things like the bridal shower etc. The maid of honor is formally responsible for throwing the bride the bridal shower, helping the bride with fittings and the selection of her gown, and serving in the capacity of formal witness to the vows. If the maid of honor is an elder, she is usually designated “matron of honor” instead. 

The bridesmaids, while traditional part of the procession, do not have major duties and are mainly given the honor for purposes of appearance and to allow these individuals to have and enjoy the priveleges that go with it, including participation in the bridal shower, if any; and in the rehearsal dinner, if any. Sometimes the bridesmaids are given certain responsibilities by either the bride or the maid/matron of honor that are for the general purpose of assisting the bride with things on or in preparation of the wedding day. As a practical matter, when the bridesmaids, escorted or unescorted, precede the bride and follow the maid/matron of honor in the procession before the nuptials, anticipation for the appearance and walking down of the bride builds.

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