Proper Wording When Including Divorced Groom’s Parents On Invitation


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Including Divorced Parents On Invitation

My daughter and her fiance would like to include the groom’s parents names on the invitation. They are not contributing to the wedding. They are recently divorced and I am unsure how properly include them. I believe the groom’s Mother is using her maiden name again, but I’m not sure if she legally changed it. So, I am unsure what is proper, and if we should use her legal name or her maiden name. Do I use “Ms.” for her as well?

Thank you for your help!

Example:

Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s parents

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daugher

Bride

to

Groom

son of

Ms. Groom’s Mom
Mr. Groom’s Dad

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Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca

Dear Mom2Bride,

It may be best to list her by her maiden name as this invitation will be a keepsake and she may not want to see her married name forever on it. And, she may have her maiden name by the time of the wedding anyway. Using Ms. is preferable to most women these days.

Your example is perfect.

Best wishes,

Thank you for your reply. The groom does not have a middle name. Would it be appropriate to include his first and last name with the above example? If so, should the bride’s name be first, middle and last name as well?

Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca

Traditionally, the bride’s parents hosted (paid) so their names are listed first with their daughter referred to by only her first and middle name. The groom is listed by his first, middle (if he has one) and last preceded by Mr. Unless this is a formal wedding, you could change those strict formal rules. But, if it is formal, you would want to stick to them.

Thank you for your help. That is what I believed to be proper, but I was not sure if the last name of the groom should be omitted when his parents are listed following “son of”. If his last name can remain regardless, that is what my daughter and her fiance prefer.

Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca

Yes, his last name should be there. Often the only reason why their names would be included is when one has past away or if they have different last names. This informs the guests of who the parents are. Some will do this simply out of respect. But, it is all optional.

Thank you so much! You have been very helpful.

I have one more question regarding my example above. After I typed that, my daughter told me that she would like the groom’s parents on one line as in the example below. Can this wording be used?

son of
Mr. Smith and Ms. Jones

Donna, Wedding Queen,

Please make this the last post. Any new questions make a new thread.

Thanks.

Rebecca Black, Etiquette By Rebecca

Yes, but write it on one line.