[kim23]

Hi!

We are having a cash bar at our wedding (it is not finacially feasible for us to have a host bar and we feel that people will be more responsible) however the reception is in a small town without an ATM, we did NOT include this in the invitation, is the best way to spread this information by word-of-mouth?

Thanks!

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Dear Kim:

It would be better to host the type of reception you can afford to pay for yourselves, without asking guests to contribute. You could choose not to have any alcoholic beverages, have only alcohol during the cocktail hour (this will aleviate the fear that guests might drink too much and become disruptive or even the possibility of one of your guests driving drunk), or just serve beer and wine or a champagne toast at the tables.

Many banquet halls suggest having a cash bar because obviously they are in the business of selling this service.

There really is no proper way to let guests know that you will be asking them to pay for any part of the reception though, sorry. This is not something that should be listed on a wedding invitation either so it was a good thing that you omitted it. This leaves you open to consider other options.

Remember, some of these guests may have already been invited to a bridal shower for you and brought a gift, and some may have travel expenses, and I would assume al will send or bring a gift so you won't want them to feel like they couldn't afford to attend your wedding.

Good Luck and Best Wishes for a Happy Marriage!