[davesgirl]

My fiance and I are struggling with what is appropriate for our wedding gift registry. We are both older and we each have our own homes full of the items brides and grooms typically register for. We really need large ("big ticket") items for our new home (bedroom set, outdoor grill, coffee tables, etc !).

How do you suggest we approach this without being offensive ? We are considering sites like Felicite.Com where we could centralize our list of desired items and guests could contribute to a "big ticket" gift, but I am concerned that this is in poor taste ? Can you tell me what is the proper wedding gift registry etiquette?

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 14 July 2025 - 01:01 PM

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Is It Proper,

It really isn't proper and more than likely would be viewed negatively. One way that you could do this would be to register for gift cards in varying dollar amounts at each store. Yes, this is still sort of like asking for money, but people have come to terms with this and most appreciate being able to give you what you want easily. Plus, if you register for small amounts also, your guests will view this positively and know that you are polite.

You shouldn't register for only gift cards because this is a negative--like saying I only want cash. So, register for your large items and accessories (small items) for each. Your guests will see what you really want and realize what the gift cards will be used for.

I know that there are registries now and even bank accounts that can be set up for these big ticket items. But, these are not viewed positively by most rational people. And, you appear to be a very courteous person who worries about your guest's feelings.

Best wishes,