[cainypop]

> Please reply I have a huge dilemma, we are on a strict budget. I made > my invitaions myself. I addressed them to only the adults of the house > and listed certain teenagers on some of the invitations. We did not > list "and children or family". Now people are RSVP with their > families. We are not serving dinner, it is more like a cocktail party > with beer, wine and appetizers. It will not be fun for children. I > understand that I should have mentioned adults only inside to really > get the message across. I am not an idiot and when my name and only my > husband to be is addressed on anything. I know that my 7 year old is > not to come. We have decided that we are not going to change our party > decisions. Should I call or mail a note to these people to tell them > that your child will be bored thirsty and hungry? We are not serving > capri sun and fruit loops. Or do I let these people learn their lesson > at my reception and feel uncomfortable when they arrive with their > entire family and their children are the only ones there. I also > invited a girl from work, she is a single parent and she has a 9 year > old, a 14 year old and a 17 year old with a newborn. She RSVP for her > whole family. I told her we are not serving dinner. She knows I am on > a tight budget and she is bringing everyone. I don't get it. Should I > tell her you will have a better time alone? Should I tell her that > only my adult neighbors are coming and that I asked them to leave > their four children at home, because of cost and how awful I felt > doing this because those children I love to death? Help me please. My > wedding is August 6th and I am stressed.Cainypop

[luvmuffin]

I am having an "adult only" wedding also.

What I have decided to do is call the people who rsvped for their whole family and explain it is an adult only affair; it is not an appropriate place for anyone under the age of such and such. in my case it is 15 as we don't want children due to the nature of the location and time of day.

Most everyone is understanding. Hold your ground; don't make exceptions for anyone as it will make the other guests unhappy.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

It is appropriate for you to call any guest who has responded that they are bringing more guests than they have been invited to bring however, leave out the part where you tell them whether this is an appropriate event for their children since that isn't really your decision to make.

Simply saying that you are having an adult wedding reception and that unfortunately, you are limited with seating and cannot acommodate anyone but (insert the names of those invited).