[EmilyMae28]

I have a question on the etiquette and how to go about my wedding. My fiancé and I are having a baby in December. We don’t care about being married before or after the baby is born, but my parents really want us to be married before. If it makes everyone happy we would be married before, but only if we could still later have the wedding. We want to have the traditionally wedding, (walking down the isle, bridesmaids, groomsmen, the wedding dress, everything). If we got married now, it would only be done on paper (because I want to look good, not pregnant), and then we would have a wedding and reception later. Would this still be okay to do if we were already technically married?

Or if we were to wait to get married and have the wedding next spring/summer after the baby, my mom thinks we should put in the invitations something that says “no gifts please,” because we will already be living together and have a baby so people might think it is rude to have to bring a gift because we already have a baby. She actually thinks we should put the no gifts quote on invitations regardless of when we have the wedding because we are already living together and will have a baby. Thanks for the advice!

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

If you get married now any service or ceremony you would have after this would be considered a vow renewal of a blessing of your marriage since you would already be married. Since a vow renewal isn't a gift giving ocassion you won't have to worry about listing anything about gifts on the invitation.

If you will be having this ceremony through your church please contact your clergy member for advice.

More information on vow renewals.

Good luck to you and you new family.