[aimee_Scott]

My fiance and I are planning what to put on the invitations. I have always wanted a traditional wedding...so I assumed I would have a traditional invitation.(where the bride's and groom's parents invite you to the wedding) Neither of our families can afford at wedding at this time right now, but they are doing all that they can. So my fiance and I are paying for the wedding and what the families can pay for, they do. My mom and I are very close and she has been involved with all of the plans. But whenmy fiance and I were talking about what we wanted the invitations...He coldly said he did not want my parent's names on the invitations if they were not paying for it (including his parents). My mom is a "take all the credit" kind of person. But she really has a good heart. I know she is going to be CRUSHED if her name is not on the invitation. It will cause a BIG problem between the relationship I have with my mom. She will make a big scene about her name not being on it. But if her name is on the invitation, I will have problems with my fiance. We have looked at many different ways to say it, but I can't seem to find something that will make both of them happy. What would the proper etiquette be in this situation?

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Keeping the Peace,

Not a problem. There is a way to include all of the parents on the invitation while not implying that they are hosting your wedding. Please note: Bride daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Bride's parents and Mr. Groom son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's parents request the honour of your presence etc.

Best wishes,