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I will be getting engaged to a wonderful man very soon. It will be his first wedding and my second. My first wedding was 5 years ago and ended about two weeks after the wedding, when I discovered that he was a con artist, was a deadbeat dad and had lied to me about virtually everything. I was in fear for my life and for the loved ones around me. As he and his mother stole everything I owned and left me with only the clothes on my back, I was never financially able to give back the gifts that were given to me. If I marry again, what is the proper etiquette? I do not want to offend any of the friends and family who were at my first wedding by making them feel as if they have to give a gift, however I want this to be a wonderful "first" wedding for my intended. Do I tell people not to give gifts? How do I go about figuring the proper etiquette? Please help. This is such a strange situation and I do not know what to do. My close friends tell me that I should just go ahead as if it were my first wedding, but I would feel better if I knew the proper etiquette. Thank you for your time, Sharon
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Can a second wedding be like a first?
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Posted 31 October 2025 - 11:07 AM
Dear Sharon,
This is a different situation, but it would seem as if those who love you understand why you couldn't return the first wedding gifts. Those were heartless people. I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
Don't worry about the gifts. Wedding gifts are optional for those who had attended your first wedding. So, there is no need to worry. If anyone asks, you can tell them that it is entirely optional because gifts are not your focus.
This does not mean that you cannot register. Many will want to give you gifts. So, enjoy it.
Best wishes,
This is a different situation, but it would seem as if those who love you understand why you couldn't return the first wedding gifts. Those were heartless people. I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
Don't worry about the gifts. Wedding gifts are optional for those who had attended your first wedding. So, there is no need to worry. If anyone asks, you can tell them that it is entirely optional because gifts are not your focus.
This does not mean that you cannot register. Many will want to give you gifts. So, enjoy it.
Best wishes,
This post has been edited by Et.byRebecca: 31 October 2025 - 11:08 AM
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Posted 31 October 2025 - 11:15 AM
Dear Sharon:
I really feel for you and if I were a friend or family member, and invited to your wedding, I'd bring you TWO gifts! I don;t think you should worry at all.
I'd like to mirror what Rebecca has said and wish you all the best in this new relationship.
I really feel for you and if I were a friend or family member, and invited to your wedding, I'd bring you TWO gifts! I don;t think you should worry at all.
I'd like to mirror what Rebecca has said and wish you all the best in this new relationship.
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