[future_ponder]

Hi! I was wanting to know if is acceptable to place a "Honeymoon fund" box on the gift table? I thought it was called a different name in the northern states, but I'm not sure.

[Etiquette Now]

Well said, Rhonda. I couldn't agree more.

This would reflect very poorly on you and your family. Even the wishing well, bridal purse, and money dance is being viewed poorly by many these days. Many guests don't want to be told they have to give anyone money anymore.

[future_ponder]

I am fully capable of funding my own honeymoon. Someone told me that this would be a good idea....i was simply asking. Thank you.

[Etiquette Now]

We are glad that you did ask. Many people do not know how others may perceive something such as this. So, because of your question many will, hopefully, decide that this isn't for them.

Thank you!

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Yes, you asked - and you are being answered! [:)]

I live in the north and I think what you are referring to is a depository for "card type gifts", as expertplanner suggested. They have birdcages and fancy boxes for this sort of gift. But - just because these are sold or others have them at their wedding this doesn't always mean it is acceptable.

Etiquette suggests that wedding guests should send all gifts to the home of the bride before the wedding (reason: gifts can get lost or stolen - Who wants to keep track of gifts when you can be enjoying your company?) However, I have been to many weddings (here in the North) where guests have brought cards. Some have had these birdcages and purses and the bride and groom would carry this purse around to each table. If the gusts were to give them a card the envelope would be deposited into this purse. Now, personally I'm not a fan of this since, as Rebecca has said, some may perceive it as negative, (to me it's almost like Halloween, going door to door with a treat bag) so your guests' perception is key. All good hosts consider their guests' feelings.

The fact that you have asked indicates that you have questions about whether you should put out this receptacle so follow your instincts and do what you feel is best.

[future_ponder]

Thank you, expert Queen for the reply....i think i might have stepped on a few toes. I was not wanting a sharp remark...only the facts and not in a condescending tone. I have never brought a gift to the wedding, only mailed...so the thought of a "box for money" was kind of weird to me as well. What about guests that will bring wedding gifts to the reception?? i have been to alot of weddings and have seen the "gift tables". Do I not have one and just have an extra table with linens and a flower arrangement for ...just in case or what?? Thank you.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

I honestly don't see where you got a smart remark. You asked a question and it was answered - just the facts. I suppose condescending is in the ears of the listener (reader). (That was not a smart remark and if you were in my prescence you'd be able to tell that because I am smiling). [;)]

I would try not to take comments read so personally. These sorts of posts on a message board do not reveal inflection of the voice. Plus, we're answering free of charge and in our spare time so sometimes we may just be in a hurry.

You can have a table set up to receive gifts just in case someone brings one to the wedding - we were all just saying that it seemed inappropriate for you to label a box with words suggesting dnations. However, for you, and all of the readers going forward, we are letting you know that sending a gift is what's proper AND what's practical - and why.

Perhaps you can discuss this with your banquet manager. Relax and enjoy and - try to remember that you can read inflection in a voice on a text post.

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 28 August 2025 - 05:46 AM