[cojudogirl]

Hello. I am making our wedding favors that will have our names on them and the date of our wedding. Who's name goes first, mine or his? Then do I put his last name after our names have been printed? Such as..... Jane & John or is it with the last name also, such as..... Jane & John Smith? Or does his name go first? I am lost to this kind of stuff.

Thank you,

Kimberly

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Kimberly,

These should reflect the formality of your event and your personality. If this is a formal event and you are conservative, you could write: Mr. and Mrs. John Doe. If you want to use first names and this is an informal event, you could write: Mr. and Mrs. Jane and John Doe. If you are informal, casual people and want to skip titles, which is perfectly proper, you could write: Jane and John Doe.

Your name would be listed first because there is a very strange, old rule not too many of us teach and really don't even mention any more, but we all still seem to follow. The rule is that we don't separate a man from his last name. It really is a silly rule that doesn't have much relevance in our lives these days. But, it is nice to know what is expected.

Best wishes,

[cojudogirl]

Thank you very much, I appreciate it. Now I can finally tackle the project! You ladies are awesome! Thanks for your time!

Kimberly