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Hello,
My financé and I want to order our invitations next week but are stumped on how to word them.
My financés parents are paying for more than half of the wedding (and they threw us a fabulous engagement party). We are paying for the balance of the wedding. My mother is giving us some money that she has asked us to put towards our honeymoon, she's hosting the rehearsal dinner and she's watching my 10 year old daughter for two weeks while we go on our honeymoon.
My father and ex-step father are sitting at the head table with me. My mother is walking me down the aisle. In my 29 years of life I have only ever seen my father a couple of times a year. My step father raised me until he and my mother divorced when I was 12.
Either of my "fathers" have offered to help pay for anything or to help in any way but because they are a part of the day I don't want to leave them out by not putting them on the invitations.
I thought we could write that he and I and our parents would like to invite our guests to our wedding but Marc wants his parents names written out in full.
Do the people paying for the wedding get their names on the invite?
Should I ask my two fathers if they are planning on helping pay for something before I decide to put them on the invites?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you.
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Posted 04 May 2025 - 10:39 AM
Dear Who is Listed,
Those who host (pay) are listed at the top of the invitation. So, your fiance's parents would be listed at the top of the invitation. Your names do not have to be listed at the top even though you are paying half. That would be a bit silly.
So, this would be a good alternative: Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents request the honour of your presence at the marriage of Bride daughter of Mrs. Your Mother, Mr. Ex. Step Father, and Father to Mr. Groom etc.
Are you sure that you want to include your fathers at the head table? It would probably be better for all of the parents to be seated at special parent's tables--separate tables for each set of divorced parents. Your mother could probably sit with your groom's parents at their special table.
Best wishes,
Those who host (pay) are listed at the top of the invitation. So, your fiance's parents would be listed at the top of the invitation. Your names do not have to be listed at the top even though you are paying half. That would be a bit silly.
So, this would be a good alternative: Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents request the honour of your presence at the marriage of Bride daughter of Mrs. Your Mother, Mr. Ex. Step Father, and Father to Mr. Groom etc.
Are you sure that you want to include your fathers at the head table? It would probably be better for all of the parents to be seated at special parent's tables--separate tables for each set of divorced parents. Your mother could probably sit with your groom's parents at their special table.
Best wishes,
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