Addressing invites to widows?

#1 Guest_mrscordell2b_*

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Is it:

Mrs. His Name

or

Mrs. Her Name?

Also, does it matter if their spouse has been dead for many years, so they may no longer think of themselves as Mrs. His Name?

This one has stumped me! [shocked]

Thanks for any help anyone can provide! []

Stephanie

#2 Guest_mrscordell2b_*

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P.S. I forgot to mention that one of the widows we are inviting has a 40 year old handicapped daughter that has been living with her all of her life.

Do I need to address it to both of them? I can't really see sending 2 invitations in this case. And, I am not using inner envelopes. [crazy] []

Thanks! []

Stephanie

#3 Etiquette Now

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Dear Addressing,

Traditionally, for widows you would address it to Mrs. His Name. But, for many women these days after an amount of time (arbitrary) she wants to be known by her name. So, really you need to know how this woman wants to be known. If in doubt, use the traditional approach.

For the woman with a grown daughter, traditionally you would send a separate invitation to a child over the age of 18. But, in this case it is as if they are room mates or even siblings living together. So, you could use that method. Example: Mrs. Great Person with Ms. Her Daughter on the next line.

Sincerely,