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I go to a roman catholic church that is the inner city and I live in the country I have always went to the bigger church because the one that is nearby is to small but the church I belong to the parish is huge , most of the weddings held thier are formal I want something not so huge and formal, I'm pretty down to earth, and so is the rest of my family, I feel my parents are pushing the big wedding glitz and I'm starting to think I'm in father of the bride or something is thier something I can do? I really want to change churches but my folks won't go for it because I was christined in this church, and my folks know the priests by name. My problem is I'm feeling to over whelmed with this huge wedding that I don't want. How might I handle this? My parents are picking out everything instead of asking me. I'm finding everything we purchase in bridal attire is expensive and not fitting, and i'm so unfortrable. When I talk with my finace he and I are so ready to just go to vegas thats not what I really wanted but this is becoming a nightmare. Any help I would appreciate it thanks.
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My church is way to big!!! I know it sounds silly but my church is way to big.
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Posted 08 January 2026 - 08:49 PM
It's time to have a heart to heart talk with your parents.
Or write them a letter telling them how you feel. Be sure to express your appreciation for their generosity. Keep the letter about you and your feelings.
It is very understandable that your parents want their daughter's wedding in the parish where she (you) were christened, and where they have a connection with the pastor. Having said that, it is your wedding. You and your fiance's feelings should be given first consideration.
Another option is to pay for your own wedding if you can afford it. Or pay for the portions that differ with want your parents wish. Brides and grooms who pay for their own weddings usually have more freedom to do as they please.
It is wonderful that your parents love you so much that they want to give you such a big wedding. Obviously, they see it as a family wedding. You just need to iron out your differences and build a bridge with love.
Blessings,
Rev. Susanna Stefanachi Macomb
Or write them a letter telling them how you feel. Be sure to express your appreciation for their generosity. Keep the letter about you and your feelings.
It is very understandable that your parents want their daughter's wedding in the parish where she (you) were christened, and where they have a connection with the pastor. Having said that, it is your wedding. You and your fiance's feelings should be given first consideration.
Another option is to pay for your own wedding if you can afford it. Or pay for the portions that differ with want your parents wish. Brides and grooms who pay for their own weddings usually have more freedom to do as they please.
It is wonderful that your parents love you so much that they want to give you such a big wedding. Obviously, they see it as a family wedding. You just need to iron out your differences and build a bridge with love.
Blessings,
Rev. Susanna Stefanachi Macomb
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