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I'm co-hosting with another coworker for our coworker's wedding shower. I have offered to do this at my complex as we have a club house we can use. The other person said she would take care of the food and that I could be responsible for games. I took this as I would need to get the prizes. I also don't think she's doing favors and every shower I've ever been to has favors.
My questions:
* should i provide favors?
* What is the minimum a favor should cost? I don't want to go overboard with costs, but I don't want to come off as cheap. I had thought about making earrings as I make jewelry, but that was when I thought only 12 people would attend. Now it looks like 25, which isn't a problem, but I wouldn't have time to make that many.
* How many games would you recommend? I have a list of them, but just don't know how many.
* How much should the prizes cost on average? Again, I don't want to spend a lot of money, but I'd like to give them something decent that they can actually use.
I've never hosted a shower before, so I just want to make sure I give my friend a nice shower without throwing away my life savings (my brother's getting married next month and I've already spent over $2000 on their wedding including airfare - but that's another story).
Thanks for all your advice! I've read hundreds of posts!
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Posted 17 June 2025 - 03:52 PM
Dear K,
A workplace shower is only held in the workplace as usually these people are not invited to the wedding. So, you could host this if it was held in the workplace. This type of shower is usually only a few minutes long and held during lunch or a break. There are no favors or games.
If all of these guests are invited to the wedding, it would be appropriate to host the shower outside the worplace. If not, then please do not host it. It would be embarrassing and improper.
Some sort of favor or token is expected. But, these could be simple little items. The token many times is tied to the theme and there is no absolute dollar amount. They can be handmade.
I can't advise on games.
Again there is no absolute on the cost of prizes either.
You don't have to spend a lot on anything. This can be very inexpensive. So, think outside the box and create something you can afford.
Please read our many posts on proper shower etiquette. If this is a gift giving event, it must appear proper or it could appear as a gift grab.
Best wishes,
A workplace shower is only held in the workplace as usually these people are not invited to the wedding. So, you could host this if it was held in the workplace. This type of shower is usually only a few minutes long and held during lunch or a break. There are no favors or games.
If all of these guests are invited to the wedding, it would be appropriate to host the shower outside the worplace. If not, then please do not host it. It would be embarrassing and improper.
Some sort of favor or token is expected. But, these could be simple little items. The token many times is tied to the theme and there is no absolute dollar amount. They can be handmade.
I can't advise on games.
Again there is no absolute on the cost of prizes either.
You don't have to spend a lot on anything. This can be very inexpensive. So, think outside the box and create something you can afford.
Please read our many posts on proper shower etiquette. If this is a gift giving event, it must appear proper or it could appear as a gift grab.
Best wishes,
This post has been edited by Et.byRebecca: 18 June 2025 - 09:10 AM
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