[yellow4764]

My soon-to-be sister-in-law made a comment that it is proper etiquette to have her as a bridesmaid in our wedding. I am not close with her and never even considered asking her to be a bridesmaid but she managed to make me feel really bad. Should I have asked her? She is planning her own wedding and has been reading up on etiquette books. So, I'm wondering if there is something she read that I don't know about.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

No, there is no rule that all family members must be included in the wedding. After all, if this were true, how would this be carried out in families with more than 2 or 3 siblings? Plus, the number of attendants you choose is based on the level of formality of your wedding so please keep that in mind before inviting. If it doesn't make sense to you then it's probably not accurate. Trust your instincts and get a few of your own etiquette books to quote. You can be armed with information which could be gently imparted if needed.

We have lots of past posts on this very issue so be sure to scan and search before posting new questions. Also - read this informative article on selecting your bridal party.

[Weddings by Shayna]

While some people include future in-laws at the request of their intended, it is certainly not a requirement. In this case, it certainly sounds like her attitude could potentially be a challenge to the entire bridal party harmony too. Don't let her interpretation of "wedding etiquette" bother you, and surround yourself instead with supportive, loving friends and family. You'll have a beautiful day.