[lnsflorida]

I am not sure how I should list my parents in the program. My father C is a big part of my life and will be listed. My mother's second husband was my step-father K for 10 years and we are still very close so I want to list him as well. She was married to a third husband when she passed in September. I am not sure how to list my two fathers and my mother. I have heard of using an additional memorial line, but my mother and I were not very close at the time of her passing. In fact, before she passed I thought that she likely would not even come to the wedding. What do you suggest?

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Insflorida,

The program is really only to help your guests know who the principal players are (those who are seated as special and those involved in the ceremony) and the sequence of events. If any of your fathers are seated as special, you would mention them on the program, if not, then you wouldn't. If listing them, you could mention all as your "fathers" with the one with whom you are closest first.

Best wishes,

[The Mannersmith]

While your mother's personal life may have been complicated, your is not. The important men in your life would be listed as "Father of the Bride" and "Step Father of the Bride." No need for further explanations. I wish you all the best. Warmly, Jodi R. R. Smith www.Mannersmith.com