[jewl]

How do I recognize the legal guardian for my groom? He's not his legal guardian anymore because my groom is well beyond needing a legal guardian. The guy calls himself my groom's "Step dad" to everyone (everyone around my small town knows him as that) but I do not want announce him as that ... because he is NOT his step-dad. That has just never made sense to me. The groom does not like it either but doesn't say anything because the guy will absolutely freak out and it is not worth the fight. I want to honorize him but with the proper title.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Where do you want to honor and give title to this man?

[jewl]

On the program at the ceremony. If it were up to me, I would not recognize him at all. I am though, to keep the peace. This is our way of compromising. He can be there recognized, but not as a step dad. This will help for future refrence when people ask, "so, how are the affiliated?" I'm not sure if he wants to be on the invitations, too. There is a good chance of that. He has it in his head that he's my grooms father (he says, "Fred may be his dad, but I am his father" to me, but tells the public that he is his step-dad). But in his heart since he considers himself as the "father", he wants to be apart of every fatherly role in this event.

[Etiquette Now]

If he raised your fiance, then he is in essence his father.

A good title would be father figure or honored guest. Stepfather wouldn't be a good title if he was not married to your fiance's mother.

It would be difficult to list him on the invitation without saying 'son of'. If he is contributing, he could be listed by his name with no explanation.