[rrandi]

I am in the process of planning my wedding and am a bit nervous over the fact that I have never actually attended a wedding! So, I'm not certain on a lot of the traditions. What exactly is the tradition surrounding the Garter?

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 31 May 2025 - 10:55 AM

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Randi,

It is somewhat silly. Many moons ago, people thought that brides were a lucky symbol. So after the wedding, the guests would tear pieces of her dress to get a bit of that luck for themselves. Eventually, the couple began to throw bits of cloth to them, which is much better than a mob grabbing the clothing off their backs. [:)] This lead to the garter throw.

Also, there was another tradition of the groomsmen following the couple to their bedroom after the wedding. They would all throw their socks at the couple. The one who hit them (probably in the face) would be the next to wed. This is probably where the bouquet toss sprang from.

Silly, huh? It is amazing that we blindly follow traditions like these. I believe it is time to, at least, put the garters to pasture.

Best wishes,

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Eh - I rarely disagree with you Rebecca, but, I like traditions. It's just about being silly and fun now. However, some do get a little risque and can sometimes lead to embarrassment for the parents and grandparents so use your discretion. But, it's not necessary. Brides can choose to toss or not.