[LLL]

Hello,

We are having a post wedding reception for all family and friends who were invited to our wedding abroad but couldn't make the trip. The celebration will be slightly within a year of our marriage. We are giving wedding favors to our guests. From what I recall a wedding date is put on the favors. Should we put the date of our actual wedding or the date of this post reception people will attend in the states?

Thank you for your help

[Etiquette Now]

Dear LLL,

Since these are optional, it really is your choice. But, it would be best to use your wedding date, as this is what you are celebrating.

And please remember, if you are hosting this well after (months) your wedding, many of the traditional wedding reception elements don't seem appropriate--first dance, traditional speeches, bouquet toss, etc.

Best wishes,

[Elisa]

Hello,

Well, we think it's strange to do all the traditional elements also.....but how do we start the reception? We are having a cocktail party with a sit down dinner. Can we be absent for the cocktail hour and then be announced at the beginning of the dinner and walk in the room when all our guests are seated?.....but then what do we do (LOL) without the first dance? I thought the announcer could invite everyone to dance to a fast song with us, but people don't like to dance at the beginning of a reception they have to get comfortable. Instead of being absent for the cocktail hour (like traditional receptions). I was thinking we could meet our guests at the door as soon as they arrive before they go to have cocktails. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated. []

Thank you

[Etiquette Now]

Think of this as a big party. It is best to be present for the entire event, not show up later. Not all couples disappear for a portion of the reception, even if the reception is directly after the wedding. This is only for those who take their pictures after the wedding. You won't be doing this, so it won't make sense.

You can have different types of dances, such as a call for everyone who has been married for less than a year, over ten years, etc. Or, there could be no special dances. It could be just a big party.

It would be a great idea if you two greeted your guests as they arrive though. You are the hosts, so this makes very good sense.