[shetler]

My mom has given me her wedding ring for me to wear as my own. I had already picked out what I wanted my wedding ring to look like, but now I do not know what to do. This ring is very special because it was her mothers ring also but my parents got divorced and that is the reason I can wear it now. I understand that 3 generations would be able to wear this ring but it makes me uneasy to wear a ring that has been through a divorce. It also is not the ring of my dreams....but my mom is very emotional and I do not want to hurt her feelings yet I do not want to just wear it because of her...it is something I hope to wear the rest of my life. PLEASE HELP

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 26 November 2025 - 08:52 AM

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Your sensitivity touches me. God bless you for caring.

Can you possibly wear the ring on another finger, on a chain or have the diamond remounted? It would be best to gently discuss your feelings with your mom. Perhaps tell her that your groom has already selected a ring for you? I would never advocate lying, but sometimes you have to in order to spare the feelings of a loved one.

This is a tough one - not really a question a stranger can answer well. I'm sorry I couldn't give you more concrete advice.

Whatever you decide, I wish you the best.

[Etiquette Now]

That is great advice and exactly what I would have said.

Our best wishes for you.

[RevSusanna]

I also agree with the moderator. Your feelings are understandable. You could also slip a ribbon through the generational ring and tie it around your bouquet. Brides sometimes carry a family bible---one that belonged to mother or grandmother---- with their bouquet, so this would be appropriate.

This post has been edited by RevSusanna: 26 November 2025 - 11:59 AM