[oceanbride]

We are getting married in Mexico this June. In place of a unity candle, we are doing the sand ceremony (pouring sands into a vase to symbolize the combining of lives). But, we are trying to include our mothers in this ceremony. We both come from places where sand is present. So, we thought about having our mothers bring sand from our respective hometowns, and we use the sand from the beach in Mexico. (Kind of like how the mothers would light the individual unity candle, and we would use it to light the third candle). We just aren't sure how to pull it all together. How do we include the mothers? Should they pour the sand first, and then we pour the beach sand? Or do they just bring it, and we work that into the wording? The problem is, if we don't have our moms pour, and we're each pouring our "hometown" sands, then how do we work in the Mexico sand? We love this idea, we just don't know how to pull together the logistics and wording of it all. Please help!

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 16 February 2026 - 04:11 PM

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

While you wait for an answer, please consider this answer from our other forum:

Sand Ceremony Including Family

Reverend Susanna gave a wonderful answer there and I think you could make it work for your situation.

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 16 February 2026 - 04:16 PM

[RevSusanna]

Thank you Forum Moderator!

Yes, do look at those words and adapt them to your liking!

To address the specific hometown/Mexican sand combination, When it comes time, your officiant may explain:

"The mothers of our bride and groom have each brought sand from their respective home towns, the places where our bride and grown were nurtured and raised. Mothers will you please pour the sand into each of the vessels representing the lives and spirits of your children.(They do so. You then hug and kiss them. They go back to their places.) (Name and Name of bride and groom), here upon the sands of this beach you begin a new life, one that is of yourselves, yet greater than yourselves. (Each of you then scoops a bit of sand from the beach and pours it into your individual vessels. You may use your hands or a shell. Then simultaneously you will pour the mixed sand of your hometown and of the beach within your individual vessels into one larger container.)

All blessings upon the bride and groom!

Susanna

This post has been edited by RevSusanna: 16 February 2026 - 05:34 PM