Bride wants to have adult reception but accept only certain kids

#1 noone09

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We have six children in our wedding party three of the children we share together and the other three are my niece and nephew. So besides the children that are in our wedding, I didn't want any other children at our wedding/reception. My Fiance is taking it as a personal "attack" to his family because all of my families children will be there and he thinks I don't want his families kids there. I feel like with six children that will already be there, it is going to be a mad house. How can I explain this to my Fiance that it is nothing personal I would just rather have it be an adult reception besides the wedding party kids.

#2 Wedding Queen and MOG

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You really can't host an adult only reception while inviting some children, especially when it comes to close family. If your children will be there then it's not an adult only reception and you're bound to offend some parents. Imagine how you would feel if you knew some kids were invited, but yours were not.

I agree with your groom. He should be able to invite his family members as well. The two of you should discuss and come to an agreement together as a couple. This is a couple's wedding, not a bride's wedding.

#3 noone09

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THank you. You opened my eyes and your right i would be hurt if other children were invited to an event and my children were not.I am glad I got your advice before the conversation was pursued further.

#4 Etiquette Now

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I agree. While it is true that we can (according to some etiquette advisors) invite close family's children and not our other guests' children, it usually causes problems and hurt feelings. I always advise against it. And, in your case of involving children in your bridal party who are from your side of the family and only inviting them to the reception, it is even more problematic.

It is best to either involve no children in your wedding or invite all.

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You're welcome. This is all such good practice at trouble shooting and good communication skills which are imperative for a successful marriage.

Best Wishes,