[MofGroom]

My soon to be new daughter-in-law and son have requested that we host a very informal picnic in a park, rather than a formal rehearsal dinner. They have requested typical picnic food (burgers and hotdogs) and want to have games and outdoor activities so that it is family friendly (lots of young children). A large number of the guests will be from out-of-town as well as the actual wedding party. We are fine with hosting whatever they want, but are concerned about how to handle the invitations. The actual wedding consists of about 100 people. They would like anyone who arrives in town the day prior to the wedding (Thursday) to be invited. This is estimated to be 40-50 people, including children. Should we send out formal invitations as this is not a formal event? Should we send out very informal announcements? They have requested we send invitations, but I am not sure this is appropriate because of the informality of the picnic. Can you please advise.

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 10 August 2025 - 07:37 AM

[Etiquette Now]

Dear MofGroom,

While this party appears very sweet and generous on the surface, including all of these wedding guests, it could be insulting to those not invited, and confusing for those who are. This is a prewedding event that appears to be a small informal reception. So, basically, there are too many guests.

Please discuss with them that this is supposed to be a "rehearsal dinner". The guests should be those who rehearse, their significant others, and immediate family. Some may invite out of town guests, but it is usually not a great idea for the reasons I state above.

Yes, some sort of invitation is expected. An announcement is sent after a wedding to those who need to know the couple is married.

Best wishes,