[KathyP]

The venue my daughter has selected only holds 60 people and we would really like to invite 75. Most invitees will come because they are local, but I am afraid to count on only 85-90% showing up because if we invite 75 and 90% say yes we are over the # the venue can hold.
Is there any tactful and gracious way to have a "B" list that we could send invitations to as the "A" list people declined?
I would even be willing to print two sets of response cards, one for the "A" list with a earlier RSVP date and one for the "B" list with a later date so that no one who got a "B" list invitation would know that they were not a "A" list person. I was "B" listed at a wedding a few years ago and we knew it because by the time we received the invitation the RSVP date was a week in the past.
If you say absolutely not then I will abide by your decision.

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 13 August 2025 - 06:05 PM

[Nancy Tucker]

The only tactful way to do this would be to use the B list response cards with an appropriate date on them. It is frowned upon but by doing this the second mailing will not know immediately that they were on the B list.

[Etiquette Now]

I agree. Plus, make sure your daughter mails these at least 8 weeks in advance. There is no guaranty that the A list guests will respond in a timely manner though. So, it may all be for naught.