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I am planning a rehearsal dinner for my son and his fiancee. They are fortunate to have three grandparents (all over 90)who are able to attend the festivities and would like them to be at the rehearsal dinner. All the relatives except the groom's parents are from out of town (anywhere from a two hour drive to a cross the ocean plane trip). My brother will take an extra day or two from work in order to drive to our Dad's house and fly with him to the wedding. The bride's grandmas will each be accompanied by a daughter who lives in their town. I feel that I should include the out of town aunts and uncles who are helping us out this way (and their spouses). It will be much easier on the two mothers if our siblings can coordinate the grandparents arrival at the rehearsal dinner and wedding. If I invite these 5 relatives (who are helping us with the gparents) to the rehearsal dinner will the other aunts and uncles from out of town be upset if they are not included (5 more guests)? Can I invite the remaining 5 out of town aunts and uncles without inviting all the out of town cousins (their children who are mostly grown up and would add 11 more guests). At this point I would have 46 at the dinner which is more than I would like.The bride and groom don't want the dinner to get out of hand but they really want their grandparents there. I also wonder about significant others of the bridesmaids and groomsmen. They are of course currently included in my guest list but in the 10 months between now and the wedding the 7 unattached members of the bridal party may acquire attachments. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Posted 05 January 2026 - 02:21 PM
Dear MOG,
It's wonderful that the grandparents are being included. And, most often aunts and uncles wouldn't be included unless they are also a part of the ceremony. But, in your case, this seems very appropriate. There is no need to invite the others though, as your party would seem more a family reunion than a rehearsal dinner.
Inviting significant others of the bridal party is obligatory. But, this doesn't include a casual date.
Best wishes,
It's wonderful that the grandparents are being included. And, most often aunts and uncles wouldn't be included unless they are also a part of the ceremony. But, in your case, this seems very appropriate. There is no need to invite the others though, as your party would seem more a family reunion than a rehearsal dinner.
Inviting significant others of the bridal party is obligatory. But, this doesn't include a casual date.
Best wishes,
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