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On 12/25/2009 my fiance asked me to marry him, my answer yes. The two of us have know each other for nearly 5 years and have been dating for 1 yr and some odd number of months, the relationship however has been long distance. I'm from Southern Utah, and he is from Oklahoma, yes we have traveled to see each other many a time throughout the relationship but we have made it work.

Shortly after he asked me to marry him he already had his mind set on a date, July 4th 2010. However after I returned home from the trip I had gone on to spend Christmas with him and his family I've been looking at locations and trying to figure out what is continent as far as my budget goes and what is continent for both sides of the family. He isn't fond of the idea about getting married in my hometown (for personal reasons regarding a visit he had last time) but it is not convenient for my family to travel to oklahoma. The only ones that could make it to the ceremony would be my mother and my younger sister, my older sister and brother in-law would be unable to make it due to a new baby and my grandparents cannot fly due to health issues. No one would be there, him and I already know his friends and family can make it to Utah for the wedding and actually want to come here. Now the issue on location is really starting to stress me out, not to mention my mother (though as excited as she is isn't helping) has taken me to a location for the reception that would be perfect AND affordable. That is in my home town. Now this is where the date comes into pay because upon research I've found that July 4 2010 lands on not only a Sunday but clear to everyone reading this, a holiday. This has turned into an issue because this particular location isn't open on holidays and/or Sundays. Issue number two? It is a holiday those on my (growing) guest list though wanting to make it won't be here due to it being a 'family' day and travel. Issue number 3? no one wants to marry us on that day. He however is INTENT upon July 4th and having the ceremony and reception up north, the venue he's looking at $2,300 for ceremony and 2 hour reception. I tried talking to him tonight (over the phone of course ) and it didn't get anywhere because he has his mind so set upon something that just won't work.




How do I open his mind to ideas without getting a wedding planner to tell him what will work and what won't because that seems to be the only way to do this?!

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Could you please edit your post to leave out the very personal details and to make the question as concise as possible?
Thanks!