[Jwoww]

My dad is getting remarried. They have asked me and my brother to be in the wedding as well as her 2 sons and 1 daughter. I assumed this meant my brother and I (I'm female by the way), would be standing with my Dad and her kids would be standing with her.

In fact, they want all the girls on one side and the boys on the other. I don't feel comfortable with this, and would much rather stand up there supporting my Dad. Am I wrong to make a big deal over this?

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

It seems like there's no harm meant, but maybe they are just trying to make this look like a traditional wedding with bridesmaids and groomsmen - men on the groom's side and women on the brides side. You can speak to your dad about it if you really feel strongly, but I'd approach with caution so as not to give your dad the idea that you aren't approving of his new bride.

[Jwoww]

Well I am a little bit worried about how my Mom (My Dad's ex) will react knowing that I am standing up there with my Dad's new wife when she is the reason my father left my Mom.

I know this is all very confusing, but I don't want to hurt my Mom anymore than I will be by attending the wedding and actually taking part in it. Supporting my Dad just seems like the best answer.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Could you perhaps not tell your mom? Sometimes a white lie is better than hurting someone's feelings.

In any event, you definitely want to speak to your dad about your feelings. He should understand. If not, then maybe you should tell him that you'd prefer to attend as a guest. I'd get into the reason with him.