[kdsmith]

I need to know how we can do this. Her father just found out he is her father. He is nothing like her stepfather. She is very close to her stepfather and wants him to be with her through the walk because she knows that he can support her in all that will be going on that day. Her real father does not know her that well and she is afraid that he would not be the help that she will need. My other question is what other role can her real father be in this wedding so that he does not feel left out? Her stepfather has been there for 9 years and her real dad has known her for about 6 months. I as her real mother know that on that day she will need my present husbands support because he knows just what to do to help her through all that she will be feeling that day. They are very close. It is a father/ daughter relationship just without the same blood. We do not want to make anyone made. So i am really looking for some suggestions on what we can do to fix this for everyone but most important is that she gets the support that she will need and not have to worry about hurting someone's feelings... thanks Karen Smith

[Nancy Tucker]

The father/step father role is to walk the bride down the aisle and sometimes to (help) financially host the wedding. The emotional support she will need will come from the father she knows. If she desires, she can have a father daughter dance first with her step father and then her father. It does not have to get complicated or hurt any feelings. Relax and allow your daughter to enjoy the entire family.

[Etiquette Now]

Exactly. It really is your daughter's choice to even have someone escort her. Plus, her emotional support could very well be coming from her fiance. He will be her husband soon.