[brideklb]

My father died a few years ago. I intend to walk myself down the aisle but I would still like to honor him in some way. My MOH told me about a wedding she saw where the bride placed a boutonnière next to a picture of her father in the chair where he would be sitting. I would love to do that, however I feel that I would not be able to keep myself together after the fact. I've considered asking my grandmother (my father's mother) to place the boutonnière for me, but I do not know if that's correct.

Thank you in advance for your help.

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 16 April 2025 - 05:36 AM

[Nancy Tucker]

The emotions involved in a wedding are heightened enough, so the addition of this tribute may be too much for either yourself or your grandmother. You may want to ask your MOH, or BM to do this for you. If you are using a flower girl it would also be very effective for her to place the boutineer after she drops petals down the aisle. Honor your father without placing additional stress to your emotions.

[Etiquette Now]

I agree. It really is best to try to keep the focus on joy--the wedding. When we mix in a memorial it can get confusing and sad. An "in memoriam" in your programs would be a good idea.