[laura3of3]

Hello, I am struggling with planning my upcoming wedding ceremony. I want it to be a small, formal event, focusing on family. I have a soon-to-be step daughter, age 9, who I want to have play a large part in this part. I also have 2 sisters whom I am very close to and want to serve as my Maids of Honors and three teen and pre-teen nieces who very much want to be in the wedding and one young nephew. I can't have one and not all and don't know how to fit them all in. Again, this is to be a small event and basically if I put them all in the wedding party, my poor mother will be sitting alone in the front of the church. Any suggestions as to what I can have the kids do that will make them feel involved and give them a sense of each playing a VERY important role in the day? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

This post has been edited by TWQadmin: 21 June 2025 - 03:01 PM

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

The best suggestion I have is the Family Candle ceremony. However, with all of these participants, you may need two sets of candles. Otherwise, consider including the children in the Family Medallion Ceremony.

[Nancy Tucker]

As a mother I would feel proud of my child who wanted to honor her family and not even think about sitting alone or have close friends in the front with her. Generally when there are 2 MOH it is a larger bridal party but you can certainly include the other young adults asking them to do readings, hand out programs or serve as guest book attendants. All of the above would still allow them to be seated with your mother as well during the ceremony.

[Etiquette Now]

Wow! This is all such great advice. Perfect! [:)]

[laura3of3]

Thank you for your quick reply. I appreciate your suggestion. I lost my dad in May, which I did not mention in my first communication. I'm trying to be sensitive to how my mom might feel knowing he won't be by her side and certainly don't want her to feel a sense of aloneness. I do understand what you are saying and may use that angle when I approach this with her. I want to do what will make her happy as well as this is going to be difficult without my dad there.

To all of you wonderful ladies that replied...thank you so much! I appreciate your suggestions.

[Nancy Tucker]

I am sorry for your loss and very proud of your sensitivity to your Mom's feelings.

[Etiquette Now]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

With so many brides completely focused on themselves, I find your focus very refreshing. Empathy is a valued quality and you seem to have it in abundance. Your mother must be very proud of you.

[laura3of3]

Thank you all for your kind words. I've been very lucky to have two amazing parents who shared 47 years together. I plan on honoring them and their commitment to each other that day as well as celebrate the journey we will embark on. Ladies, you provide a wonderful service to those of us with questions. It is very kind of you and truly appreciated. Thank you!

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

47 years married - they sure are great role models for marriage. Their commitment to you and each other is encouraging. Please thank them for me.