[9072011]

My MOH is also my sister and never asks about the wedding. I have told her when things have been decided like photographer, videographer etc., except honeymoon as she would be immensely jealous that we are going to Florida (my in laws-to-be paid for it)and i don't want another jealous rage like I had with my engagement ring (it was pathetic). This Saturday, 3 elder bridesmaids and I are looking at bridesmaids' dresses and my sister seems to be looking for excuses not to go, or making demands like the dress has to be long, cover her breasts, back and cover her shoulders (she is a plus size). I have said it is down to the shop assistants and you, I just have to like the dress, (I am trying to be reasonable!) and the color. She has never said she doesn't want to be MOH, but other people have said she is making it clear by her actions. I don't want to out right ask her, as I do want her to be MOH, but I am getting fed up by her lack of interest. What do you think i should do?

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Since you don't want to speak with her, I don't see that you have any options. You can't have it both ways. If you want to sort things out with her and know how she's feeling, I don't see any way to do that other than having a clam, frank discussion at a time when there is no issue occurring. If you don't want to discuss the issues, then just grin and bear it and continue on with the planning, doing your best to keep control while allowing her to fulfill her role.

I really encourage you to speak with her about hpow she's feeling. It's best for your wedding and your relationship.

[9072011]

We dont have the best of relationships anyway, but i will try and talk to her. Thank you for ur advice

[Etiquette Now]

I agree completely. And, I'm glad you are taking the Wedding Queen's advice. She is very wise :)

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Hey, coming from someone of your stature, Rebecca, I'm honored. :D