[LinSD77]

Our wedding is in 10 months and on Memorial Day weekend. About 5 years ago I relocated from the east coast to west coast (over 3,000 miles). Needless to say, most of my guests will be traveling while my FH's family is almost all local. I've already been getting questions about hotels and travel plans so I've been diligently working to put our website together with all that info.

I posted it on facebook and my FH was concerned. He pointed out that most people on my our facebook pages are casual acquaintances and would not be invited. He was concerned it would be insensitive to those not invited or worse, that some people would assume they were going to be invited and offended if they aren't. When he said that, I panicked and took it off. I've since learned that you can make it accessible to only some people and so that fixes that problem but it makes me wonder, what IS the etiquette for allowing people who aren't invited to see the info? While I absolutely agree with what my FH pointed out, I also feel like it's a great way to share one of the most important events in our lives even with people we may not be that close to. I mean if we can post what we're eating for dinner or how spin class was, shouldn't we also post a link where people can see the details of our wedding (clearly way more important that spin class).

Thank you in advance for your time.
Linsd77

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Linsd77,

The problem with posting such personal information is that it should be personal. Our personal, private life isn't something that should be advertised and hung out on an Internet line for all to see. Your fiancé is correct that when wedding planning is posted on a site where anyone can read it, those who aren't invited might feel slighted. A wedding website is different than the typical Facebook page. The address for this type of site is usually only advertised to those who are attending the wedding, thus ensuring that there will be no wedding crashers or hurt feelings.

There have been numerous articles about posting personal information on social networking sites. It isn't positive and can be hurtful and sometimes dangerous.

It may be best to keep your wedding planning private. If you really want to use Facebook, it may be best to create a different page for this that is only accessible by those attending the wedding.

Best wishes,