[PB&J]

Hello. My daughter is 2 1/2 and will be the flower girl for an upcoming wedding (my husband is the best man, and I am not in the wedding party). The bride is being very non-commital about the dress. She has mentioned having a "tutu" made and has also pointed out a $150 dress from David's. I am trying to keep my eyes open for shoes, accessories, etc. that may be appropriate - but it is impossible when I don't know what she will be wearing. I always thought that it is the bride's responsibility (and pleasure) to choose the dress and attire for the flower girl (after all, it is HER wedding!) I know that if I had had a flower girl at my wedding, I would have wanted to choose the dress! The wedding is approaching quickly, and it is not easy to find shoes, dress, etc. for a toddler in short notice - how do I get the bride to make up her mind (without seeming rude and pushy) I understand that she is probably under an immense amount of stress with all the other wedding planning, but I don't want to end up in a dilemma trying to find something for my daughter last minute! (I am having a hard enough time trying to find something for myself!) Thank you for any input you may have.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Since it's your responsibility to pay for the dress, I don't think you're pout of line to bring up the subject with the bride. Simply explain, as you have here, that you're concerned about the cost and about finding accessories. Then see if you can pin her down on either a date to go shopping or to make a selection. You seem like a reasonable person, so I would think you would come across that way to the bride. :)
Please let us know what's happening and how the issue worked out.

[Etiquette Now]

I agree. It is perfectly appropriate to discuss the subject with the bride.