[abcd1234]

My husband and I agreed to omit a number of aspects at our reception such as toasts, dances, garter/bouquet tosses, etc. Being the center of attention makes me extremely uncomfortable. At our reception, his mother learned that we were omitting the mother/son dance, told us she was upset about this, and convinced 20 of her family members and friends to leave with her shortly after the reception had started. One of these people included my husband's brother who was also his best man.

As a result, I was very upset that she made such a huge fuss about a choice that both my husband and I agreed upon and that so many of her family and friends were angry with us for it. I tried to hold it together for the remainder of the reception and surrounded myself mostly with my parents and the wedding party. Looking around at all the empty seats was too much for me and we ended the reception a couple hours earlier than scheduled.

Now, a couple months later, I realize that I did not greet a number of our wedding guests that I personally knew because I was so upset and withdrawn. I feel awful about it. I don't think that the guests knew about the incident with his mother and I have an inkling that they think I'm a rude bride for not greeting them.

Our anniversary is a very sensitive subject as it only brings sour memories instead of good. Do you think the 10 or so guests that I didn't greet think that I am the most horrid bride ever? We did not have a receiving line. I have a feeling that yes, they think I'm exceptionally rude but if only they knew what had happened.

Thank you so much for your help, once again.

[Etiquette Now]

Dear ABCD,

It may be best to contact them and tell them that you meant to greet them but there was an issue that forced the early end of the reception. It is also best not to mention your mother in-law. But, more than likely others noticed that there was something amiss and probably don't blame or judge you. That is only a guess though.

Best wishes,

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Awww, can I just tell you how sorry I am that you had this experience? But please don't let this be the centerpiece of your wedding memories. I understand not wanting to be in the spotlight and you and your husband had every right to plan the wedding you wanted. But, as a mom, I can understand your MIL disappointment. She handled her feelings poorly. How sad she cannot discuss these feelings with her son. I hope your husband can have a good talk with his mom and the three of you can come to terms with all of your feelings.

[abcd1234]

While my husband and I excluded the father/daughter and mother/son dances, it didn't mean we refused to dance with our parents at the reception. Without getting into too much detail, she's gotten upset at events before but it has never been this severe.

Thank you again for the advice. I really appreciate it!

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

So, probably anyone who knows her also knows that she can be difficult. They understand and probably don;t blame you at all. It really reflects poorly on the mom.