[orestespd5]

We are getting ready to order wedding Invitations and we are not sure what names to put on the Invitations for the bride's Parents. She was raised by her Grandparents but her Mother was, and still is, in her life. Her Grandmother passed away last year. Her Father was really never around and he passed away too. She said it should be her mother and Grandfather. Can someone please help and let us know what Is right. Both sides are helping pay for the wedding along with us.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

The wedding invitation isn't an announcement of who's paying, just an invitation. So, if you and your bride are planning this wedding, even if being helped by the parents, you can send the invitation from the two of you. There doesn't have to be any mention of parents.

The wording would depend on the formality of the wedding.

[Etiquette Now]

I completely agree. The only time it is necessary to list the bride's parents is on the very formal wedding invitation. If this is the case with your wedding, then the mother would be listed first, followed by the grandfather. The groom's parents could be listed next, but is usually listed under the groom's name as "the son of... ".

With the informal wedding, none need to be listed or could be referred to as: bride and groom along with their parents invite... . This is only an example. There are many ways to invite for the informal wedding--much more leeway than the formal wedding.