[Eileen952]

My best friend is getting married and has two younger twin sisters. She feels that because they are family, they should together be the MOH. My friend says she wishes I could be the MOH but she feels she must honor her family.

However, my friend knows (and I would agree) that her sisters, because of their young age and general personalities, are unable to fulfill the duties of MOH. She told me that she would like me to take the title of bridesmaid but to do all of the things a MOH normally would do. I would be the "unoffical" MOH.

I am not sure what I should do. I would love to be the MOH if I actually was the MOH. I feel somewhat hurt and used that she is asking this of me. However, I love her and don't want to cause friction.

How should I handle this situation? Should I just suck it up and do the role of MOH even though that is not my title?

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

I'm sorry you're feeling slighted. I'm sure that your friend is just trying to please everyone, often a futile task. :blink:

Do what is in your heart for your friend. It's just a title which not many pay attention to. Most don't even know who the MOH is at the wedding.

"What's in a name? That which we call a rose. By any other name would smell as sweet." Shakespeare


If I were advising your friend, I'd send her to this article about choosing a maid of honor.

[Panache by Erin]

I agree with the previous post! If you notice that your friend's sisters are not fulfilling their roll as MOH, stepping in would be the nice thing to do. I'm sure your friend will always remember how you stepped up to the plate and made her wedding the best it could be.

[Etiquette Now]

Excellent advice! The title seems important, but just being there for your friend is most important. Perhaps the process would be more of a "team" effort anyway. :)

One little piece of advice though, it may be more appropriate for the sisters to be Jr. bridesmaids. Age 9-14??

[Eileen952]

Thank you everyone for all of your advice. The girls are 18 but they are somewhat immature for their age. At any rate, I think I will follow everyone's advice and just help my friend with what is needed, and not worry about my title. Thank you so much.