[amy715]

My fiance and I agreed that we would have a "no stripper" rule for my bachelorette party and his bachelor party. My bridesmaids are handling the party however and keep hinting that they want to break that rule. It isn't fair that my fiance's groomsman are more than willing to abide by this rule and my bridesmaids are breaking it. Is there a firm but polite way to make it clear to them that I will not attend a party with a stripper?

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Maybe it would be better if you told them that YOU don't want a stripper rather than telling them you made a pact with your fiance. They may be feeling as though it's possible you want it but don;t want to break your agreement.
I'd be polite, but very firm. Tell them you hate the idea and would hate this sort of entertainment. I hope they get the point.

[Ohio Wedding Planner]

I agree with the previous post in that maybe your friend think that YOU do want one, but you can't say that because you promised your fiance, that you wouldn't. Tell them, very clearly, in no uncertain terms that you are thrilled to get the chance to celebrate with them but you just don't want to be a part of anything that includes a stripper. If any of them question you about it, I would just explain to them that it isn't something you'll enjoy nor do you wish to have as part of the memory of any part of your wedding. I would hate to think that they would still "sneak" something into your party, but you'll need to let them know that if they do something like that, you'll have to leave. Hopefully that would cover all of your bases and that your friends would understand.

Good luck!

[Panache by Erin]

I agree! You should tell your friends in no uncertain terms that you do not want a stripper at your bachelorette party. Surely they will respect your wants.

[Etiquette Now]

Absolutely. Great advice. There is nothing impolite about stating that you don't want a stripper.