[lala3458]

My daughter is the maid of honor at her best friends wedding. The bride picked bridesmaid dresses that only came up to a size 14. My daughter was a size 18 but is now a sizw 16 and is working out faithfully 5 times a week and dieting. She never cared for the style of the dress but wanted to make her friend happy so she bought the dress ($178).She is now miserable and working so hard to fit in this dress (which is backless not her style). Is this right or can she tell the bride she doesn't like the style and wear a different dress than the other 3 bridesmaids? Thank you.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

You know, I really feel for your daughter. Dress size and body image can be a difficult subject to maneuver for young women.

I think she can go to her friend, the bride, and explain her dilemma. I can't imagine that a good friend would want her maid of honor to be uncomfortable at her wedding. Many times the maid of honor might have a bit of a different style dress or different color, so that shouldn't be an issue, but it's really up to the bride. Of course, the dress she already purchased probably cannot be returned but check the receipt to be sure.

[Etiquette Now]

I agree. However, as mentioned, the bride chooses the style of dress. So, she may not want to offer your daughter this option. It is fine for the MOH to have a slightly different dress or wear a wrap. This might be the best option for your daughter.

[Jacqueline]

I agree with both answers, and it's unfortunate that your daughter has to feel miserable on her friends special day. There are some brides that may consult with their bridal party, but some may not (and are not required too). If your daughter is unsuccessful in having the dress changed, then I agree with the moderator in at least covering her back with a wrap. As the maid of honor, she can traditionally be a bit different then the rest.