[2ndmoh]

I am the maid of honor for my best friend and I just found out that she is only allowing one of my three children to attend the wedding. First off, please let me say that I understand that this is her day and I have always been extremely supportive that her day should be the way that she wants it. I feel that she has put me in a very difficult position with my children. My oldest son is going to be her ring bearer. My daughter's best friend is the flower girl. I just found out that she is only allowing the children who are part of the wedding party to attend. Again, I understand that this is typically okay, but what happens when this rule splits up a family? My other son and daughter are devastated that they can't attend their "auntie's" wedding while their brother gets to go. My other son is very torn because he so desperately wants to be there and be the ring bearer but is so uncomfortable with the thought of leaving his brother and sister out. Is it okay to split up a family like this? It is causing a lot of tension and tears in the house.

[Etiquette Now]

Dear 2ndMOH,

No it is not OK to split up a family. If one child in the family is invited, then all are.

Good luck conveying this to the bride. :)

Best wishes,

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Maybe you need to present the child's view to the bride. Perhaps she doesn't understand how she's hurting the children.