[Nigella]

This forum has been very helpful, but it seems my question hasn't been covered. I'm MOH and planning a bridal shower. I'd like to invite some individuals to the shower who are invited to the wedding but are not invited to attend the reception. Is it rude to invite people to the shower who are only attending the wedding, not the reception? Thanks in advance for your advice!

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Everyone invited to the wedding should be invited to the reception. I know you can't control that, but I wouldn't add insult to injury by inviting them to another gift giving event when they aren't invited to be entertained after the wedding, which is considered the gift giving portion of the event (all guests invited to the wedding are expected to send a gift).

[Etiquette Now]

I agree. This would be like asking these guests to give two gifts to the couple, and yet at the same time telling them that they are not good enough to be invited to the reception. This is very poor manners. Please discuss the fact that all wedding guests are invited to the entire reception with the couple. They may not realize this.

[Jacqueline]

There is always a proper way to do things, so inviting someone to a shower who is only invited to the ceremony will not only be an insult but embarassing. They will feel out of place and feel like they were only invited to bring a gift and not share in all the festivities..

[Ohio Wedding Planner]

I hate to just add more information that is in total agreement with the previous post but I think it is necessary to assure you that, from any angle, it just doesn't work. As a planner, I really never like to agree to my clients inviting people to one part of a wedding and not another, that is in poor taste and I'm not 100% certain what the reasoning ever really is for that choice. You, however, are not responsible for that decision that was made, but since you are able to make the next decision, inviting some to the shower that aren't invited to the wedding, you can do the right thing and not invite them. How awkward to have half of the guests talking about the reception they will be attending while some of them won't even be attending the wedding. I hope, one more answer, isn't overkill but I definitely wanted to be sure you knew we were all, definitely, on the same page with this response!