[Aunt Shannie]

My nephew is getting married in June and will be having a very small wedding due to limited space at the venue. We will be hosting a reception/shower prior to the wedding and including family members who will not be invited to the wedding due to the size restrictions. We have a huge immediate family and we are struggling with how to word the invitations. It is for everyone(male & female & children) so not a traditional shower. Also this reception/showeer will be in place of the actual wedding for most of those invited. Thank you for your help.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

Your party wouldn't be appropriate no matter what it's called since, for a bridal shower, only wedding guests should be invited and a reception is help after the wedding. That's probably why you're having touble wording such an invitation.

I'd host a wedding reception within a year after the wedding. Anyone can be invited to that event (not just those invited to the ceremony) but note this is not considered a gift giving event).

Hope this helps.

[Aunt Shannie]

I understand about the reception being held after and the shower for invited guests only. What would be appropriate for a before the wedding party? We want the bride to meet our large, very close family(we usually have 75+ at family gatherings). They know that it is going to be a small intimate wedding but want to help them celebrate and start their new jorney.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

There really isn't a pre-wedding event that would be appropriate for guests not invited to the wedding. Reason? Pre-wedding parties are in place to get people exited for the upcoming wedding. Since your guests won't be going to the wedding it's best to host something afterward.

[Etiquette Now]

I agree. It is best for the bride to meet her new family after the wedding if this party is to be wedding related. Please note that the guests would not be obligated to give gifts. Only those who attend the wedding are.