[stanwelks]

I am getting married in two months and am completely clueless as to what to wear. The wedding is at the end of June, in the morning, and at a hotel by the beach.

I know that dark suits and tuxes are not supposed to be worn at that time. So I have looked at light tan, and blue suits though they are just not my style. I have also looked at morning suits (not sure if I like them) and white dinner jackets even though I know those are supposed to be worn in the late afternoon.

1. would I be laughed at for wearing a morning suit?
2. would I be laughed at if I choose to wear a dark tux?
3. would I be laughed at if I choose to wear a white dinner jacket and dark pants?

Thank you!

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Stan,

The suit chosen would be based on the formality of the event. A lighter color is best in warmer months, so you are correct about the color. The dinner jacket is considered a tux. So, that wouldn't do for a morning event. A cutaway (morning suit) is attire for a very formal wedding, while a stroller could be worn for a formal daytime wedding. However, a suit would be fine for formal/semi-formal affairs. So, that just might be a good choice for you unless this is an informal affair. Could a light colored linen suit be a good choice for you? It does wrinkle quite easily, so you'd have to be very careful.

No one should be laughing at you unless you forgot to wear your slacks

Best wishes,

[stanwelks]

Thanks for your reply. By "laughing at me" I mean because it is not appropriate to wear. I seem to gravitate to wanting to wear a nice black tux, though I know you are not supposed to wear them early in the morning and it is going to be by the beach, so that is supposed to be a double whammy. I do not want to do linen because it will wrinkle easily. I am thinking of the white jacket, though I think that is really a dinner jacket also, though at least it is lighter than a black one.

1. What do you think of a white dinner jacket and black bow tie with dark pants?

2. If so, what types of accessories could I get to wear with it?

3. any recommendations for places to get good quality white dinner jackets? they do not seem to be easy to find.

Thanks!

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[Etiquette Now]

I know what you want to do and to wear. To be honest, I love the idea and love the look. But, the dinner jacket is supposed to be worn in the evening, not the morning. If you want to go against what is thought of as appropriate for the time of day, then go for it. There are no etiquette police and this is a very minor breach. But, if you feel that you have quite a few guests who know their etiquette...well, then you might get those giggles you want to avoid.

If you want to go with what is considered appropriate, I have mentioned alternatives. Yes, linen wrinkles. But, a nice suit might be what you could wear and not have any worries.

However, at the end of the day, you have to be happy with how you look. So, you will have to decide for yourself.

There are others who are better at informing you about accessories and places to rent or buy your dinner jacket. I'm sorry that I am not an expert in that field.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

You can get a white dinner jacket here.

[stanwelks]

I am leaning towards the white dinner jacket.

What would my groomsmen wear if I wear this? If they wear dark tuxedos they will definitely make me stand out. Thoughts?

Thanks.

[Etiquette Now]

There really is nothing I can advise you about this, as a tuxedo isn't daywear. So, if you choose to do this, it is your call.