[bigapple14]

We're trying to plan our wedding and need some advice. We have 4 girls and 2 boys that we would like to include in the wedding. The girls range from age 10 - 13 (at time of wedding) and the boys will be 12 (twins). We already have 3 attendants each (adults), but would like to somehow incorporate the kids into the ceremony. We've thought about having two junior bridesmaids and two flower girls and the boys be either ring bearers or junior groomsmen (if there is such a thing). We're not sure how to handle it. Any suggestions would be appreciated! Thank you!

[bigapple14]

One thing we're considering is using the two older girls as junior bridesmaids and the two younger ones to carry memorial flowers up to the front in honor of our deceased grandparents. There is one grandparent still alive, so maybe one girl could stop, hand a flower directly to the grandmother, and then proceed on to put the rest in a specific area to serve as a memorial for them. Our grandparents were very special people to us, so we want to honor them in some way. If we do that, how would we list the younger girls in the program? Maybe as Memorial Flower Bearer/Girl or something like that. I like the idea of them going and sitting with the parents after they do that.

[Etiquette Now]

Dear Big Apple,

They shouldn't be called flower girls because they are too old and it could be embarrassing. So, since you are basically creating a new type of attendant, I think your name for them is perfect. There isn't anything wrong with all four remaining children standing as junior attendants. It sounds like the ceremony will be very sweet.

Best wishes,

[Vibiana]

I think it sounds like a great idea. Just make sure the young gentlemen are really willing to do this (having four brothers, they were, er, FUN to deal with in the early teens. haha). If they are, it should be a great ceremony with a different and refreshing wedding party composition. :)