[Stepmother of the Bride]

First, let me say thank you for such a wonderful site. My stepdaughter has asked me to sing for her wedding. I'm happy to do it but am not comfortable being a soloist, so I've enlisted the help of two friends who sing with me in a women's ensemble. They are sisters; Diane is a soloist at weddings and Kathy is like me and has no desire to be a soloist. My question is how do I compensate them? The local rate is $150 but I think Kathy would be insulted if I paid her but I have to do something for them both because I wouldn't want them thinking I was taking advantage of our friendship. In addition, the wedding is two hours away so this will be taking up most of their day. I am planning to get them a gas card for the trip. And they are so pragmatic and frugal, I can't even think of a suitable gift for them, so any suggestions would be welcome.

[Wedding Queen and MOG]

I'm glad that you're finding the website helpful. We try.

If you think that just handing them an envelope with a check inside for the going rate would insult them then perhaps you can offer them a goft card for a nearby restuarant where they can have dinner near the church (if they aren;t invited to the wedding). If they are frugal I imagine they don;t go pout to dinner often so this would be a nice treat for them, along with the gas card.

[Nancy Tucker]

I think that the relaltionship of the singers needs to be established. Will they also be guests at the wedding?